I am primarily an evangelist and teacher who travels around the world in apostolic ministry as God leads and enables me. In addition to preaching and teaching the Bible, I mentor our key partners to be more strategic and impactful for the Gospel in their countries and cultures, just as they continue to mentor me. I am relationally focused rather than program or project focused in ministry relationships and partnerships.
"And the things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, entrust to faithful men who will be able to teach others also."
(II Tim. 2:2)
Dear Partners in Ministry,
For over 4 decades, the primary thrust of my life and ministry has been preaching, teaching and mentoring people in the Word of God. I believe it is the most eternal investment you can make in people. It is God's method of "encouraging, equipping and empowering" leaders for His Kingdom through His Church. Therefore, the challenge is to identify and focus in on the "faithful men and women" who will in turn "...teach others also." That's the multiplication principle in the Body of Christ. Those strategic and faithful leaders are the "abiding fruit" that Jesus promised would be the result of our investment of love, prayers, time, energy and resources.
As you know, the first decades of our ministry was primarily focused on ministering to teenagers and young people who had a sensitive and faithful heart toward the things of the Spirit and the Word. Most of those "spiritual children" that God sovereignly entrusted to Patt and me are now in their 50s and early 60s. Like us, some are now even grandparents! Thankfully, the vast majority not only have physical children, they too have scores of "spiritual children" they have birthed, discipled and mentored in the faith. These are our "spiritual grandchildren" that we will only get to meet one day in heaven!
However, they are not just our spiritual children and grandchildren. They are also a part of your heritage and spiritual inheritance because you have supported Patt and me with your love, prayers and financial support across the years. That's the joy and Power of Partnership that I teach about in my book by that same title. That's also why the mission statement of JL, Patt & Friends is summarized by this phrase: "Leadership Through Partnership."
Most of my teaching is overseas with strategic national leaders God has sovereignly networked my life with. But annually, I teach a concentrated one week mini-semister at the Carolina Evangelical Divinity School (CEDS). As you know, I am the Professor-at-Large -- or "large professor," there in the School of Missions and School of Leadership. Last year I taught on Global Missions as the heart-beat of God. This year, I taught on "Leadership Development in the Local Church." My two books on leadership Follow The Leader and Kingdom Leadershipwere two of the primary texts, along with the Power of Partnership. It was a joy to teach the following subjects that I hope to soon get posted on my web site so you can listen to them at your leisure.
Thanks again for partnering with Patt and me in our on-going ministry of "Mentoring For Missions" through servant-leadership development for the Kingdom of God.
Finally, in the coming weeks, I will be sending you bi-weekly email updates on the ministries of some of our key partners and their projects we have been involved in for many years. Most of the time our emails have been updates on our travels and ministry. And while we have touched on a few of our national partners and projects, we have not given them the profile they deserve. Therefore, during the summer months, I will be updating you on these key national brothers and sisters who are in strategic places making a positive difference for the Kingdom of God. The updates will primarily be "pictorial reports" with brief captions so you can get quick overviews of their ministries. I know you will be blessed by seeing what you have been making possible through your spiritual and financial investment through JLPF.
Advancing His Kingdom Through Faithful Men & Women,
JL & Patt
Father’s Day is always a day to honor our fathers, the men who provided for us, loved us, and protected us. I was very fortunate to have a father that loved the Lord and lived his whole adult life in dedicated service to Him as a local pastor. He did remarkably well in that role even though he struggled with some masculine deficiencies. His natural father died when he was a young boy and his stepfather was an abusive alcoholic.
Dad and I shared a lot of common interests, like a love for animals, exploring the great outdoors, travel, camping and hunting. We were both “collectors” and “fixers” who never threw anything away that we thought we should save, repair and use later!
We both shared a love for adventure and travel. While I was a young teenager, we even drifted down the Yadkin River for a week in a homemade raft I had made from six 50 gallon oil drums – Tom Sawyer style!
I also remember how intently he listened to me as I explained why I had been expelled from school for fighting in the ninth grade! His major concern was the reason for the fight…whether I had initiated it…if I had fought fairly – and whether I won or lost! His own background growing up on the “wrong side of the tracks” made him sensitive to my situation – in spite of the fact that he was the local preacher!
Thankfully, my Dad had a Christian worldview even before the term was popular. Because of his own year-long-around-the-world trip after marrying my mother, he kept foreign missions a top priority in our family values. He and mother reared us as “Great Commission Christians,” rather than as parochial ones. For that I am eternally thankful.
My father died suddenly while I was away at college. It was October of my senior year. In fact, it was the night of my very first date with Patt. I was deeply saddened to no longer have him as a role model, mentor and friend just before I was to graduate from college and enter seminary to prepare to go into “full time Christian work.” While I know God is sovereign and good, I will always have a wishful longing that Dad could have lived long enough to be a part of my life and ministry. Especially to see me fight some strategic battles for the Kingdom – rather than with high school bullies! And I will always be grieved that he never lived to meet Patt or our children and now 12 grandchildren – that will have to wait until heaven.
As I said, I am among the fortunate who had an every-day-in-the-home-father. He made it easy for me to transfer my understanding of fatherhood from him to my understanding of God as my heavenly Father. I want to encourage those of you that are celebrating this weekend, to intentionally devote yourselves to living as Godly fathers. I am not suggesting that you will attain perfection, but I want to urge you to at least struggle in that direction. So I have done a brief study of 6 fatherly roles for you to think and pray over, things that I hope will empower you to be a great Dad to your children.
ROLES OF FATHERHOOD
When you do a comprehensive study in the Bible on the role of human fatherhood as revealed and reflected through heavenly fatherhood, you see many interconnected roles. Each is really a study unto itself, but in this, The High Calling of Fatherhood, we will examine the important roles of maturity, marriage, messenger, model, mercy and ministry.
The first role of a father is to manifest spiritual and sexual maturity through his masculinity. In the Bible, fatherhood is associated with wisdom in his relationship with God, his spouse and his children. Twice the Apostle John summarizes fatherhood with these words:
“I write to you, fathers, because you have known Him who is from the beginning” (I Jn. 2:13, 14).
As this verse reveals, fatherly wisdom comes only from a deep, intimate, mature relationship with God. The more mature the relationship between the human father and Heavenly Father, the wiser will be his relationship with his spouse, his sons and his daughters.
The more intimately the human father knows God as his “Abba, Father,” the more he will reveal and manifest that same intimacy with his children. That means that the human father only experiences this intimacy with God through sonship. Note these insightful words by Paul:
Note how the word “slave” is contrasted with “son” and “sonship.” Also how “fear” is contrasted with “freedom” – the freedom of intimacy with God as “Abba, Father.” There is a certainty that sonship results in eternal security and eternal reward as “…heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ.” That means that everything that Jesus inherited from His Heavenly Father we inherit with Him as His joint heirs! That’s shouting ground!
But just as the words son and heir are manifestations of the Father’s incredible love, they are also descriptions of discipline. That’s because you cannot separate love from discipline. They are two sides of the same relational coin between a father and his son. Jesus said: “The Father loves the Son” (Jn. 3:35; 5:20). But this was not a mushy, sentimental, Pollyanna, painless love. Anything but that! Jesus suffered incredibly in manifesting the Father’s love. “In bringing many sons to glory,” Hebrews said, “it was fitting that God…should make the Author of their salvation perfect through suffering” (Heb. 2:10).
That’s why the wise father of Proverbs said to his beloved son: “My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline and do not resent His rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those He loves, as a father the son he delights in” (Prov. 3:11-12).
The writer of Hebrews echoed this principle of love and discipline when he wrote:
“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines those He loves, and He punishes everyone he accepts as a son.”
Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? If you are not disciplined…then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live! Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best, but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in His holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it” (Heb. 12:5-11).
So, no discipline, no love! That’s why it is one of our greatest instructors to bring us to maturity, and our children as well– which is the goal of fatherhood.
2. ROLE OF MARRIAGE:
The role of fatherhood is to prepare his children for marriage. And the greatest preparation for his children’s successful marriage is to see his father’s successful marriage – close-up and long-range. A wise father always has this long-range goal of marriage in mind. It is the only positive Biblical reason given for a son’s “leaving home.” This foundational principle is found in Genesis, repeated by Jesus in the Gospels and underscored by Paul in the Epistles:
The reason Jesus came from heaven to earth was to woo and win a bride for Himself – which is the church. To do that, He had to leave His Heavenly Father. As Paul reminds us in Philippians 2, “God the Son” could not become incarnate in this world as the “Son of Man” unless He humbled Himself… emptied Himself…laid aside His rights as “God the Son.” Because of agape love, “God the Son” voluntarily laid aside all of His rights and prerogatives as perfect deity in order to clothe Himself in perfect humanity to win a bride for Himself.
That same humility is to be demonstrated by human fathers in their spiritual headship and servant leadership with their wives and children through marriage.
3. ROLE OF MESSENGER:
One of the primary callings of a father is to communicate. God is a God of communication. Some of the very first words of the Bible are: “And God said…” (Gen. 1:3). And because He created man in His image and likeness, men and fathers are also called to be communicators. They are to be in life-long communication with their Heavenly Father, their spouse and their children as the God-ordained authority in the home.
Fathers are to be “men with a message.” As the progenitor, priest, prophet and provider of the family, the father is to be “God’s messenger.” He is to communicate God’s message through his life and lips. But because of the “sin of Adam” most of us men are also guilty of the “silence of Adam!” And this lack of clear and consistent communication is especially missing when it comes to the Word of God. While there is a dual teaching role between the father and mother, the father’s role is almost always mentioned first. Note this role and responsibility of fathers in communicating the principles and precepts of God’s Word:
There are scores of other verses about the responsibility of the parents – especially the father – in communicating God’s Word to the children (Gen. 18:19; Deut. 4:9; 6:1-10, etc). Study and be encouraged by them.
4. ROLE OF MODELING:
Fathers are to set a positive example of spiritual headship and servant-leadership in the home for children to follow…imitate…emulate. Sons especially are to look up to and learn from their fathers in every area of life.
The Lord Jesus left us “…an example that we should follow in His steps” (I Pet. 2L21). In the same way, the Apostle Paul as a good spiritual father urged young Christians, especially his “sons in the faith,” to follow his example:
As I said earlier, children are by nature imitators. And the first people they naturally imitate are their parents. Little boys imitate their fathers and little girls imitate their mothers. If they do not have clear consistent parental models to imitate, they will grow up with confusion about their own masculinity or femininity. If they are deprived of good parental role models in the home, they will look outside the home. In the process, many will grow up “imitating imitations.” The result will be a life-long insecurity and uncertainty about their true identity.
5. ROLE OF MERCY:
The authority of authentic fathers is never hard or harsh. It is never autocratic or dictatorial. His fatherly leadership is that of a servant to his wife and children.
Mercy is one of the most consistent and persistent manifestations of the God of the Bible. Often He is called a “…merciful God” (Deut. 4:31; c.f. II Sam. 24:14; Neh. 9:31; Jer. 3:12; Ps. 25:6; 78:38; Dan. 9:9; Mic. 7:18, etc).
Because the Heavenly Father is merciful, the role of the human father is to manifest mercy. In scores of practical ways, we see God manifesting His fatherly mercy.
Moses reminded the children of Israel that God “…carried you, as a Father carries his son” (Deut. 1:31). The Psalmist reminded us of God’s mercy by being a “…father to the fatherless, a defender of the widows” (Ps. 68:5). David also reminds us: “As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him” (Ps. 103:13).
Jesus reminded us in His Sermon on the Mount: “Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful” (Lk. 6:36). Any wonder then, that Christians in general, and fathers in particular, are called to constantly manifest mercy because of the mercy that their Heavenly Father first demonstrated to them (Matt. 9:13; 12:7; Rom. 12:1; Eph. 2:4; Heb. 2:17; Ja. 2:13; I Pet. 1:3; 2:10, etc).
6. ROLE OF MINISTRY:
God called every father to be a “full time minister” – not just the preachers, pastors, evangelists and missionaries. Sadly, these groups of “religious professionals” are the ones who are generally referred to as “ministers” or “full time Christian workers.” More correctly, they should be referred to as “vocational Christian workers” while every Christian, especially fathers, are to be seen and honored as “full time ministers.”
As we saw earlier, the Bible portrays the father’s role as the priest and prophet of the home. While today we see the father as the progenitor, protector and provider in the home, we see the “religious professionals” as the priests and prophets.
However, if the father does not see and embrace his role as the spiritual head of the home and exercise that ministry, his children will not – especially his sons. Scripture tells us that the Jesus was always doing His Father’s work. He was always doing ministry.
And any way you slice it, doing the work of the Lord is ministry! But the good news doesn’t stop there. Here is an incredible promise from Jesus about work:
“I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in Me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. And I will do whatever you ask in My name, so that the Son may bring glory to the Father. You may ask Me for anything in My name and I will do it” (Jn. 14:12-14).
I love the encouragement of those words from the lips of the Lord Jesus – especially the promise about the “…greater things” we will do in His Name for the Father’s glory. That’s why I often told our children growing up that I wanted them to stand on mine and Patt’s shoulders and see farther…have more faith...be more mature…accomplish more for God’s Kingdom and glory, than we had! And they are doing that in their own areas of calling, giftedness and spheres of influence. To God be the glory!
These, then, are some of the major roles of a father as revealed in the Bible. There can be no more high, holy or humbling calling! The restoration of authentic fatherhood is the greatest need in our world today.
As every student of the Bible knows, the Old Testament ends with an exhortation to fathers. It is a prophecy about the “Elijah” who would come as the forerunner of the Messiah. Listen afresh to this ancient exhortation that is incredibly relevant today:
“I will send you the prophet Elijah before that great and dreadful day of the Lord comes. He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse” (Mal. 4:6; c.f. Matt. 11:13-14; 17:10-11; Lk. 1:16-17).
Those words were followed by 400 years of prophetic silence – until John the Baptist stepped on the scene. Jesus told us that John was that new prophet who had come in the spirit of Elijah.
It is sobering to realize that the very last word of the Old Testament is the word “curse.” That was not only a “wake-up call” to ancient Israel, but it is also a “screaming alarm” to America! Because of our abdication of authentic fatherhood, our country is being struck with a curse! The evidence is all around us – especially in the youth culture that manifests so much confusion and identity crisis.
The only hope for the home, church and world is that we fathers “…turn our hearts to our children” so that “…our children’s hearts will return to their fathers.” Then God will replace the curse with a blessing.
That is also my prayer for myself as a father and grandfather. And in studying and sharing “The High Calling of Fatherhood” with you, my own heart has been exhorted and encouraged. I pray that it has been the same of each of you as fathers…grandfathers…sons – even fathers-to-be!
There is one more thing I want to add about my Dad. We looked alike. When I was a kid, I took a quick picture of him shaving, left hand on his left hip, right elbow up, with the razor making a path over the puffed-out cheek. I shave exactly the same way! Looking like him is great. But whether or not you look like yours, all of us men can look like The Father. Jesus said that anyone who had seen Him had seen the Father. As we imitate Christ, may it be said of us that we look, act, talk and live like Him, who looked just like His Father.
For the glory of God our Father,
PS: This study is an abbreviated version of a much longer study on Fatherhood Leadership, click here for a pdf file of the full study..